Taking the "s(t)uck" out of Relationships
IAR is a comprehensive toolset for individuals, groups, and conscious communities to move into a new paradigm of fluid, functional, and joyful relationship dynamics, while exiting the patterns and programs of thinking which create drama, confusion, misunderstanding and pain.
IAR is an antidote to co-dependency and works by repatterning consciousness through language.
IAR provides a new framework for how to think about all types of human relationships – romantic bonds, friendships, business relationships, partnerships, family ties, companionships – a new system which inherently “short circuits” the old programs and patterns that ultimately set us up for disappointment and pain. There is a better way!
A Simple Formula: Clarity + Sincerity
The approach of Intentional Autonomous Relating might seem quite weird at first based on the typical ways that most people have unfortunately been taught to view relationships with each other through our mainstream culture, but IAR will seem natural and obvious once you try it. The simple idea is to be radically honest with yourself and with everyone else about what your feelings and needs are, to speak clearly and from the heart, and to celebrate the true alignment with other people that feels good and joyful to you both. IAR provides a helpful framework for getting clear with yourself about all this, and then communicating clearly and sincerely with others.
Supportive Guidance
My goal and heart’s desire is to help everyone create joyful relationships by using a modern framework that combines guidance on communication, safe relating practices, and intention-based interactions. Whether you and your person are new friends, old friends, monogamous, polyamorous, seeking new connections or married for years, IAR has something to offer you to make your experience even better and more fulfilling. I’m here to walk with you every step of the way, and my intention is to be the most sincere advocate for everyone involved to create the best possible scenario for happiness, love, peace, and success in relating.
A New Perspective on Old Patterns
Have you ever been in a situation where you felt unclear about your “relationship status”? Do you sometimes wish that you could be more open and clear with people about how you’d like to relate with them, but not sure how to have the conversation? Have you ever had a pattern of finding yourself in relationships that don’t seem to be serving you or meeting your needs, but don’t know how to break the cycle? Are there people in your life that you love and want to share more love with, but feel afraid to talk about your true feelings and intentions?
IAR is meant to open up a whole new world of possibilities for the kinds of relationships we can have and is meant to set a new standard for how happy, fulfilled, satisfied, and safe we can feel. It switches us from thinking about relationships like a game with winners and losers (“deprivation-obligation” mindset) and into a new frame called “cooperation-celebration” where everybody’s a winner because we all get more of what we want, and nobody has to sacrifice themself in the process.
If you’re ready to flip that switch and try something wildly different with your important relationship(s) that maybe feel stuck or looping, or if the phrase “stop dating, start relating” resonates for you, then IAR is ready and waiting to help.